Hey guys, right now I just really need your advice and it’s about my best friend (Dicto). I don’t want to say it but I think our friendship is coming to an end.
And I don’t know if I should be happy or sad.
So let’s go back to Tuesday when I went to her house with my friend and she (not Dicto) asked me if I wanted to read Dicto’s diary. It’s not as bad as it seems, Dicto doesn’t really care about her diary, we technically are he pe diary. For gods sake she lets us read it all the time. SHE WRITES ON IT IN FRONT OF US!!
But while we were reading it Dicto’s mom came in and was really mad, and infront of us Dicto said that it was fine, but when I went to go to her bathroom I overheard her saying that she wished we told her. I don’t know if she was serious about it or not but either way I’m kind of mad at her. She was either lying to make her mom seem like she’s right or if she really felt that way she could have told us and then it would be fine.
AHS I thought it was over but then Dicto’s mom called my friends mom and said horrible things about their family (she has family issues which force her to leave the country once in a while) and say things like “you haven’t raised her properly!”. That was completely unnecessary and she has completely ruined a strong friendship.
Then on Thursday we were all going to play pool in the mall, but Dicto suddenly didn’t come as she was grounded and got her phone taken away for the whole holiday p(my friend earlier told me about it) and i started spamming her for like 2 days straight (before I knew she was grounded) as I was asking her if she was alright yet she would anyways read yet never reply.
I’m When I found out I stopped because I thought her mom was reading the messages but then yesterday was her boyfriends birthday and she was in the comments section saying stuff like “happy birthday” yet still ignoring me even though she was online. Then I told her about how I was annoyed of her ignoring me and wanting to know what’s going on. She then replies me saying something like “I never ignored you” and since it was Christmas I said sorry.
I feel like it’s not even this whole thing that’s ruining our friendship.
Firstly, she left our school this year and from the three years of knowing her we’ve never fought until this year (we had another one a some time ago this year)
Secondly she’s changed. Like she’s so boy-hungry now. It’s as if she can’t survive with a boyfriend we’re only like 12/13 year olds!! I have never had a first kiss (not really looking for one and she’s already been kissing guys in the bed. IN MY BED!
But at the same time I don’t want this friendship to end, we had so much good times and she’s helped me a lot. Heck, she made me lose my depression last year. I can’t lose all of that.
This always happens to me because I’m always alone and I always cry and instead of helping some people just make me cry even more.
What should I do?
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That’s hard to say! I think you should give her like a second chance or more time. If then you feel like you are not getting om well, you don’t have to stop your friendship but maybe keep the distance.
But as always make what you think you have to do!
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It’s difficult when parents get involved in friendships. I had a friend who blocked ALL of us (like 10-15 people) after having a fight with about 3 girls within our circle of friends. Her mom was the type to push her to do things like that and say “They’re not good for you.”
Although at your age, you should listen to your parents.. There are also friendships that are worth fighting for. If your parents see that you are a good influence to each, that should be fine.
Anyway, I’m glad you had a friend when you were depressed. It’s good to have support. Unfortunately, some people grow apart as they grow older. Especially since you’re younger, you might find out you’re into different things or interests, etc…
I hope this doesn’t make you feel bad.. it’s just something that happens in life. Be more understand and forgiving if you really love your friend, but NOT to the point that you will be tolerating even the most hurtful things… Do what you can to keep the friendship.. Also try to put yourself in your friend’s shoes to see things from her point of view. It might help understand her. Like, what if it was YOUR diary.. and you found out your friends were reading it without your knowledge (even if you openly write in front of them)… how do you think that would make you feel?
Hey, if you need a friend to talk to, just send me an email anytime: contactdailywarriors@gmail.com
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